Mayans Didn’t Doom Us

I was chasing Away the fuzz of last night’s New Year’s Eve revelry with my preferred dose of caffeine this morning while checking Facebook, and I found myself “liking” twenty, then thirty, then forty positive wishes and optimistic musings share to mark the start of 2012.

If we stop to consider for a moment, we are in an amazing time. We nonchalantly carry super computers in our pockets or purses. We routinely share our thoughts instantly across the world via text, and Facebook, and so many other methods. We are truly closer to being One than ever before. That is something.

And yet 2012 is being spun as yet another End Times. What do we see? Doom watches. End of The World T-shirts. Mayan merchandising. Yep, we’re embracing the end, counting away to Armageddon, rolling toward The Rapture.

And we’re looking at it all wrong.

The end of the Mayan calendar should not be seen as a prophecy of extinction. That is not what the Mayans suggested at all. The Mayans said the end of this calendar marked the beginning of the next 394-year “baktun” or cycle, according to numerous scholarly sources. But renewal, rebirth, reawakening apparently doesn’t sell. “The New Beginning is Nigh” doesn’t look as good on a sign, or coffee cup, or T-shirt.

But if we are to give the wondrous civilization of the Mayans any respect, this is what we are actually facing: an opportunity to renew our energies, redirect our lives, go through a rebirth of what we believe and commit to, and a reawakening of how we use our lives to create something beneficial to others.

That is what 2012 should be about; committing to creating rather than destroying, uplifting rather than tearing down, and to seeking the spiritual beauty in our lives rather than sowing doubt and fear.

This is not easy. I know because I am not some blessed monk praying blissfully in some distant temple; I am a deeply flawed guy living right in the middle among everyone else. Every day I strive to improve how I deal with others, and so often I fail. My Bronx sarcasm comes out, my defensiveness, or my Irish stubborn streak argues before I think of a better way of dealing with the situation at hand. None of these parts of my background let me off the hook. It is the job of each of us to turn our shortcomings to benefits, to seek the blessed inside the unbearable. None of us should be expected to change in an instant, but doing one thing a day can yield amazing results over the course of a year. We can make it happen this year.

And, yes, many of us have workloads or responsibilities or challenges that overwhelm us. Climbing a mountain can seem overwhelming too, if it is attempted all at once. But no one climbs a mountain in one rush. We do it one simple move at a time. Every successful person does the same thing. Heart surgeons operate one small move at a time. Super Bowl victors never do it in one play, but by making the most of every play, moving past fumbles, and maximizing every opportunity to move closer to victory. All of us can move forward in the same way.

We should never surrender to being overwhelmed; the book of our lives is written one sentence,
sometimes one word at a time.

My very best wishes to each of you in 2012. Instead of doom, let’s make this year glow with the beauty of our every day lives.

Christopher Ryan is author of City of Woe, available on Kindle and Nook, and in print. For more info, click here.

 

 

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XBox Boyz: Is Virtual Hanging Out Better?

So it was last Friday night, my wife and I were going to a former student’s grad school graduation party, and our twin boys, 15, were staying home for the night. In my day, this often meant instant party as soon as parents left the block. And that may still happen, but this is also a different generation, living in a completey changed world. Yes, my sons hung out with their friends all night, and they wore the headsets to prove it.

That’s right, my fifteen year olds happily spent the evening in their bedrooms, online, with at least a half-dozen of their friends, ridding the virtual world of Nazi zombies, with an occasional sidetrip to play in the Super Bowl.

“Hanging out” no longer means freezing on a corner, or in front of the Seven-Eleven, or in some hallway, as it did when I was a teenager. My sons were with their friends the whole
evening, but they were safe at home, too. And it has been the weirdest thing for me to get my head around.

Are kids really socializing when they play online, in specialized “rooms” exclusive to just their friends? Is it truly socializing if it is not face-to-face? What is the side effect of killing Nazi zombies for six hours at a clip? Are we raising a generation of tech savvy socialites, or breeding the next Tuscon shooter?

I listen to my guys when they are on XBox Live; they are joking, goofing around, and bickering in turn. It seems no one is taking the zombies or the killing seriously; manuevering and cooperation seem to be bigger issues. Okay, so some of them coordinate better, others like giving orders, and still others like going their own way in their simulated world. Sounds normal to me.

But the hours. Six hours Friday night. Five hours Saturday. Five more Saturday night. Another six on Sunday. Twenty-two hours of killing zombies or playing Madden over two-and-a-half days. And this is a weekly habit. That concerns me on several levels. One, they aren’t getting exercise during all that time. Two, they are cocooned up in their rooms, interacting only virtually. Three, they only meet who they invite in, like a clique. Four, this arrangement prevents them from meeting other people, like, say, girls. Five, Nazi zombies or not, they were killing for most of those 22 hours, while simultaneously laughing with their friends. Desensitization, anyone? Six, what new information are they taking in? Yes, they may be learning to wield their controllers more efficiently, slaying more of the undead, but what are they achieving? What skill mastery are these hours moving them towards? If 10,000 hours is the tipping point to excellence, are we breeding a generation that will only master gaming skills? Are we prepping them for some dead-end computer processing cubicle job, or worse, a short, violent life as a military grunt?

On the other hand, they socialize with plenty of girls in school and on Facebook. One of my sons recently began going out with a real-life girl, and I know it is real because he changed his Facebook status. More significantly, at their age, I would have been freezing on some park bench or in some hallway, illegally drinking beer or Jack Daniels, or both, and trading insults with “friends”.

So is it possible that their social situation, complete with virtual mass murder, is better than mine was at that age, when I drank and dissed friends for almost the same amount of time? Is their virtual hang out healthier than my real, but alcohol and abuse-laced social reality of the past? Are virtual parties, Facebook, AIM, etc. the new norm, to be considered advancement? Am I correctly sensing a danger or am I just clinging to a long dead past? Is it okay that this generation lives through their thumbs?

I look forward to your views.

Christopher Ryan is author of City of Woe, available on Kindle and Nook, and in print. For more info, click here.

 

 

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Kim Kardashian

What bothers me most about Kim Kardashian and her 72 days of marriage is that she believes she tried. Recently, she and her family were on a Barbara Walters special and it was like she had survived some significant ordeal.

Sorry Kim, you never even got out of the gate.

I just celebrated 25 years of marriage. I believe in commitment. Sure, comedians joke about the trap of marriage, that it is a life sentence, but the committed married folk know the truth; yes, marriage is work but it is worth reward.

Pop culture knuckleheads like the Kardashians should not be allowed to damage to that subtle truth, and the public backlash against her should remind Kim that she is more fad than institution; marriage will outlast her easily.

What lingers for me is Kim thinks she tried so hard. Maybe that suggests she just doesn’t know any better. Maybe the bar has been set so low for her regarding interpersonal relationships that 72 days did seem like a lifetime. But it is not. And those of us who have committed, who have been delighted by long nights of passion and have also worked through arguments and tension and coped with differences, we know what it really takes to grow to be better people together.

That’s where Kim made her mistake. She thought she knew what marriage is, but very publicly demonstrated that she didn’t have a clue. We married folk, those of us who have put in the time to make it work, we know the risks, we know the challenges, we know the difficulties, and we know the rewards. Most of all, we know Kim never got anywhere close to the knowledge we have, the truth we live by every day: marriage is love and lust and tensions and fighting, but not fighting against each other, fighting to forge a greater bond that is bigger than either side alone.

Seeing Kim would slight that effort, sneer at that hard-fought, well-earned bond is insulting. Sure she may have gotten a ratings boost after her “72 dat ordeal” but we married folk know she is misusing the concept of marriage. Like a child’s view of Christmas, she seems to think getting married is all attention and dress up and presents. That is such a dim view. And we can forgive her intellectual limitations on most aspects of her entertaining but ultimately ridiculous life. What we can’t forgive is disrespecting the area of our life that we hold so dear. Those of us who did the work, who grew together through sacrifice and love and communication and respect, who made a real effort to hold onto something sacred in an increasingly silly and diminished culture, we know her efforts at marriage were fake, her understanding of marriage was wrong, and her respect for the best part of our lives was appalling.

And we won’t forget.

Christopher Ryan is author of City of Woe, available on Kindle and Nook, and in print. For more info, click here.

 

 

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#edscape … Missed it!

So my son’s high school hosted a conference this weekend called edscape, featuring technology and the use of social media in the classroom. And I missed it.

As a high school teacher, I have been trying to update my knowledge of technology, evolve with the times, stay current. And it feels like I am trying to walk through an avalanche. But missing this conference, one held only a few blocks away, was the last straw.

So today I vow to reinvent myself, to become tech savvy in the classroom. I have a Smartboard I use basically as a projector. That must change. I have a LinkedIn account I do not know how to use. That has to change as well. I have a MacPro I am wary of. Not for long. I have an iPad2 purchased to get me more technological in the classroom. So far, I am grading with it….

I need to take more than baby steps. One step forward is that I have a Facebook page my students can “like” for updates and homework reminders. They cannot “friend” me, that way lies madness. They can only “like” the page and receive the updates. Not a bad start (taught to me by a former student turned colleague), but…

The question remains what it has always been; how do the uninitiated get plugged in? I am hoping this blog is one way. Can I blog my way into the modern age? Is blogging passé now? Should I be tweeting or tumbling or whatever?

Here’s my offer; share what you know, or suggest links, etc., and I will turnkey them here. I want to evolve into a cutting edge teacher using social media, and I am will g to share what I learn.

Anyone interested in pointing the way?

Christopher Ryan is author of City of Woe, available on Kindle and Nook, and in print. For more info, click here.

 

 

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No Filter Required: Classroom Tempers in the Digital Age

A petite student called me an “asshole” in class the other day. Dropped the “F” bomb, invited me to write her up, and stormed out of my class when I informed her that leaving was an option.

This got me thinking about the more extreme reactions I have noticed in classes this year. Granted, most of my kids are the same kind of students teachers see year after year; cooperative, well-behaved, and dutiful. But these days there are a few new twists to those few who do not fit that description.

There is a variation on the withdrawn student these days, one who has withdrawn in a very specific way. A teacher spots this kid easily; his or her head is always looking into his or her lap, where the cell phone is “hidden” so cleverly. Such a student forces a teacher to decide how to handle the situation. Is it worth class time to confront the kid, maybe confiscate, or more correctly, attempt to confiscate the cellphone, if that is school policy? Can a quiet word do the trick, get the student to put it away, or will that just suffice for a moment? Will calling the parent end with satsifaction, or will the class begin to pull away from the “narc” teacher?

Similarly, what do we do with a student who always seems to have technology dangling off him. Earphones hanging out of the hoodie, cell next to a textbook, but not “on” or “not being used.” It is just there “in case of emergency.”

Again, how much class time do we use to battle technology?

More often, students will come in and email their essays to me, sans paragraph indents, and other standardization. Allowable use of technology, or surrender to be resisted?

Of course, the very presence of such powerful technology complicates the vigil against cheating tremendously. What to do, what to do?

How to proceed is a difficult and increasingly necessary question to wrestle with because the overwhelming majority of students have powerful smart phones in their pockets, wielding technology that often leaves classroom tech in the stone age. How does a teacher remain relevant when put at such an odd disadvantage?

And then there is my beloved petite fireball with her foul language and hair trigger temper. Students often do not filter their comments on facebook, tumblr, and so on, why would they feel a need to do so in a class room? And when the class room moves so much slower than the technology in their hands, why should the “host” of that room be given more respect than a fb friend?

The only answer I come up with, the one I rally behind when these situations arise on a daily basis in class, is that I am what all the social networking in existence is not; I am there, standing right in front of them, looking them in the eye, and honestly offering face-to-face rather than facebook-to-facebook communication.

Does it always work? No. Is it worth remianing true to every day? I believe it is, and i would love to hear your thoughts on the subject.

So, what do you think?

 

Christopher Ryan is author of City of Woe, available on Kindle and Nook, and in print. For more info, click here.

 

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Hello world!

Teaching is like being a parent, parenting always involves teaching, and when you do both, the lines blur. This blog will explore issues in the classrooom, and at home that come up when I try to be fair but functional to teenagers.

How do we present standard education (for example, classic literature) in a world that has so fundamentally changed? Students today do everything online, in front of a screen, via technology. Can we fully understand how ancient and last century a book looks to them? How do we get them to invest in the value of such masters as Shakespeare when they focus 140 letters at a time?

This blog will seek to discuss the journey of a book-loving older Dad and teacher trying to find relevant means of commmunicating with current teenagers’ significanlty different world.

The first issue will explore respect in the Cellphone Age. How do we address tempers, being cursed out, and short attention spans at a time when just about every student is walking around with more powerful technology in their pocket than I have in my classroom?

That blog will be posted tomorrow. I plan on posting Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and will have a theme for each (home, school, world, or some variation on that). All will deal with passing knowledge on to those coming up in a very different world, and how to survive and remain relevant as that world changes so rapidly.

I hope people will find this worth their time, and I welcome feedback throughout.

Christopher Ryan is author of City of Woe, available on Kindle and Nook, and in print. For more info, click here.

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